Elaboration

Elaboration and background. About insemination, marriage and adoption.

The film takes its spring out from the issue of insemination of unknown donor sperm to single and lesbian women in Denmark:

For many years in Denmark lesbian and single women could go to the hospital and get inseminated in order to get pregnant. Then politicians and other people started to think, that these women were not actually ”ill” like the heterosexual couples who have reproductive challenges, Second, they were worried about the fact that these women’s children would not have a father.

The law against insemination of single and lesbian women in Denmark was passed in 1997.

The law said – no doctors in Denmark could provide the insemination to these women. Nina Stork was a midwife and lesbian herself. She had tried (though without success) to get pregnant with insemination. She decided to help single and lesbian women to have children, to conceive under safe and comfortable conditions. Because she was not a doctor, she was allowed to do that for a private business. She opened her clinic, Stork Clinic, in 1999.

The legend of the Stork tells children that the Stork brings the children instead of desire and sexuality. One can say that with the Stork Clinic, children almost literally came with the Stork.

After many political fights the law was withdrawn in 2007. Insemination was again open to every woman in the Danish healthcare system.

The film, A Child, is concerned about this issue of homosexuals having children on two levels: the political one and the private one.

The political one saying:

Who has the right to have children, who has the right to make a family?

If there is no right in terms of right provided by the state or community – who has then the right to prevent people to have children, to make families?

Research of the wellbeing of children of homosexual parents so far says, that the children born and brought up by homosexuals are fine. They seem to develop more tolerance towards other people and cultures than their peers. They also seem to be privileged, with parents who are more resourceful than the society average. But if the children were not so fine, could the state then forbid it? Does the State forbid divorces because research shows that children of divorced parents have some difficulties in there life? No; that would be considered being against fundamental human rights.

The private level saying: Do I want children? How do I want to have children – how do I want my life to be if I have children, what do I think is a responsible upbringing for my child, how can I take care of its needs, and my own and (if any) my partners? How do I survive! to have children?

Single women and homosexual people are forced to ask themselves these question before they have children. Many heterosexual people don’t. But probably parents and their children in general could benefit from such questions asked.

Some heterosexual people accuse homosexuals of being selfish when they want to have children, and therefore having children for the wrong reasons. But homosexuals themselves seem to have children for their own sake. One never hears heterosexual people justify having their children for the sake of society or anyone else.

How does the political level affect the private one?

In the sense that legislation and debates can influence how people think of themselves as parents.

Many people worry about children of homosexuals. About this, a young lesbian woman commented: Nobody ever asked me, whether it wasn’t just awful to be raised in a family of heterosexual parents. Some people have worries about other children teasing children of homosexuals. But it doesn’t seem right or fair, that prejudging mentality or bad manners should make the State to legislate against those peoples interest, whose children are being bullied.

The process a reducing discrimination of homosexuals through legislation is just another form of Civilization Process in general.

The civil status of parenting and marriage for homosexuals is a key-issue these days. It is good that homosexual love finally has become obvious, well known and accepted by many people. But it is a problem that some people, and some parts of society, haven’t quite understood the concrete obligations and consequences of this. Homosexuals (and other people with a different sexuality) are not just a ”fascinating” phenomenon. Their lives integrate with the lives of heterosexuals, when homosexuals bring their partners to arrangements at work and their children to kinder-gardens and schools.

About the law on adoption and marriage in Denmark 2012:

Denmark was the first country to have registered partnership. That was both legalising and acknowledging the love of homosexuals. But since then Denmark has been far behind other European countries in matters of introducing equal rights for homosexuals.

Recently though, in 2010, it became allowed for homosexual couples to adopt children. Although homosexual couples have not adopted any so far due to the resistance to homosexual parenting in foreign countries.

The gender-neutral marriage has now, in 2012, been introduced in Denmark. Homosexuals can also be married in the common church of Denmark. Each priest is allowed to choose not to perform the ceremony for homosexuals, but apparently that will not be a problem. There are plenty who want to.